How do we decide if something we experience is a punishment?

1. Your parents ground you
2. Your parents ask you to look after your younger siblings
3. You receive homework from your teacher
4. Your mother says you can’t go out until you clean your room
5. You are teased at school
6. You get sick just as the holidays start and can’t spend time with your friends
7. You forgot your friend’s birthday and the next day you find out that they forgot  to invite you to their party.